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Loving your life is easier than you think.
What do you want to accomplish by the end of this month?
What would be your most meaningful win?
I talk a lot about what it really takes to reach our most meaningful goals. The reason I get so excited (you should hear me talk live about it) is because it's actually easier than we think.
It's the small, simple, enjoyable moves; not the no pain / no gain method, that brings a much more satisfying result.
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Even on our worst day, those kinds of small moves don't feel that difficult...
Today I’m sharing with you the second reason why we struggle to reach our goals.
Quick Recap: Reason one is because your goal isn’t what you think it is. What we’re after is never a thing, it’s a way of feeling about ourselves. If you missed the first part of this series, you can read it here.
NEXT UP: REASON TWO
2. You have a when/then story attached to your goal.
Let me explain.
When we set out to reach a goal, we carry with us a when/then mindset that goes something like this:
When I...
[This is a multiple-part series on reaching goals. I'm going to address why you’re struggling and the simple, enjoyable shifts that lead to lasting success.]
We want to believe that we’ll get better results by being more disciplined, more productive, more focused.
We’ve read up about the habits of the highly successful. We’ve consumed an abundance of self-development content.
We’ve tried many, many times to stay consistent with new habits. We’ve woken up at 5am, journaled, meditated, cut out sugar and gluten and a...
My 2018 Year In Review video popped up in my facebook feed the other day. If you’re on Facebook you’ve probably seen yours too.
As I watched the brief video that showcased a handful of meaningful moments from the past year, I was reminded of some of the wonderful things that have happened this year:
I got a tattoo.
All the kids birthdays.
Some incredible speaking gigs.
Articles I’ve written.
The clients and companies I’ve been fortunate to serve.
The miles run on the treadmill.
The back to school pics th...
It's a school night; the witching hour approaching.
I'm sitting by the roaring fire in our kitchen savoring the healthy meal I just made. The kids won't eat this meal, neither will my husband. It's a gesture just for me. Truthfully, my kids begged for bowls of cereal for dinner tonight and I happily agreed.
Once their bowls of cereal were finished and homework was completed they made their way down to the playroom. I can hear laughing and screaming as they play their game of make believe.
The dishes aren't done. T...
“It is better to live for one day as a lion than for 1000 years as a sheep.” - Tibetan Proverb
You can follow along and keep trying to fit in. You can continue to say yes when you really want to say no. You can carry around all the extra weight, stress and disappointment that comes packaged with that way of living or you can decide right now that you deserve more.
Contrary to how it may feel in the moment; you never lose a thing by opting out of what no longer feels good enough. But by turning your back on yourself...
I'm jogging on the treadmill when I hear a loud bang behind me. Without turning around I have a pretty good sense that the sound is part of someone's workout. It's the sound of a large medicine ball being forcefully thrown down to the ground. But still, I can't resist turning my head for a moment to look.
Sure enough, as I turn to see a woman and her trainer throwing the medicine ball, I begin to lose by balance on the treadmill. Luckily, I caught myself fast enough and didn't fall.
I smile to myself as the lesson...
Having completed my run, I move to a quiet corner of the gym to stretch. Kneeling down on the mat for child's pose, my back is painfully tight., immediately resisting the stretch. I stop for a moment and then attempt to stretch further. My back feels even more tight and tense.
I decide to ease off the stretch, and simply hold the pose where I’m at. Rather than pushing for more, I turn my attention to deepening my breath.
In choosing this approach, something fascinating happens; I’m able to stretch further, not beca...
I pulled up to the parking garage closest to the train station and the sign said the lot was full. Oh no, I thought to myself, what do I do now? I had never parked at this station before and was unfamiliar with what all the parking options were.
Luckily, I spotted a sign for another garage around the corner. I pull up to it only to see the very same sign indicating that the lot is full.
I feel myself starting to panic. What am I going to do if I can't find parking? I paid $600 to attend a conference in Boston and...
In 2008 you could have bought a 10 percent stake in Airbnb for $150,000. On June 26th of that year, Airbnb's CEO, Brian Chesky, offered this deal to seven prominent Silicone Valley VC's. Five of them rejected the opportunity, the other two didn't reply. Eight years later, that 10 percent would have been worth $2.5 billion. The idea was deemed a "long shot."
1. Just because it might feel like a long shot, doesn't mean that it is.
2. The reaction of others is not an accurate measuring tool for your success.
Spending...
