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Today I’m sharing with you the second reason why we struggle to reach our goals.
Quick Recap: Reason one is because your goal isn’t what you think it is. What we’re after is never a thing, it’s a way of feeling about ourselves. If you missed the first part of this series, you can read it here.
NEXT UP: REASON TWO
2. You have a when/then story attached to your goal.
Let me explain.
When we set out to reach a goal, we carry with us a when/then mindset that goes something like this:
When I...
The excerpt below is from The Book of Awakening, by Mark Nepo
"I say yes when I mean no and the wrinkle grows." - Naomi Shihab Nye
"There have been many times that I said yes when I meant no, afraid of displeasing others, and even more afraid of being viewed as selfish. I think the first time I decided to get married, I said yes when I meant no. Young and inexperienced at being myself, I agreed to be a fish out of water for as long as I could, so as not to hurt or disappoint or displease. Not surprisingly, it all e...
When Akiba was on his deathbed, he bemoaned to his rabbi that he felt he was a failure.
His rabbi moved closer and asked why, and Akiba confessed that he had not lived a life like Moses.
The poor man began to cry, admitting that he feared God’s judgment.
At this, his rabbi leaned into his ear and whispered gently, `God will not judge Akiba for not being Moses. God will judge Akiba for not being Akiba.’ - From the Talmud
There is no reward to be found in trying to be like someone else.
Small moves each day to ri...
"Just kick the ball. Kick it hard in the general direction of the goal. You never know what might happen."
My oldest daughter is six years old. She's playing in a competitive soccer league for the very first time this Fall. This type of competitive play is a first for most of the other kids on the team as well.
Much to the coach's dismay, it's taken half of the season just to get the team to understand that the point of the game is to score a goal.
Last week my daughter scored a goal. It was the only goa...
He made a list of what comes up for him when he's around a specific person in his life.
anxiety
shame
negative energy
financial block
stress
second-guessing
not being himself
insecurity
You'd think after reading this list that it would be clear what move to make next. You might even think it would be kind of easy.
This is why it's not.
Because the place we make our decisions from has nothing to do with those things on the list. It's not the anxiety or the shame or the second guessing that's got the hol...
He got the thing he really wanted. It was kind of a big deal. He called me to share the news.
"That's awesome." I said. "How do you feel?"
"Okay I guess." He said.
"Wait." I say. "Only okay? You know you're allowed to feel happy. Right?"
"Yeah, I guess." He says unconvincingly. I was saddened by his reponse.
You know you're allowed to feel happy. Right?
Even if you don't have everything you need.
Even if it all hasn't worked out just yet.
Even if you're not living your dream.
Even if you haven't made the money.
E...
Last night I caught a fascinating interview with Charlie Rose and Tim Cook, CEO of Apple.
Tim discussed many interesting factors in taking over for Steve Jobs and leading the Apple team, but something that really stood out was when he spoke about blocking the noise.
"One thing Apple does well," he stated, "is to stay simple and focused. And in order to do so, you have to block out the noise."
I'm paraphrasing here, but Tim stated that if you get caught up in paying attention to who's saying...
