The Missing Piece To Your Most Powerful & Purpose Driven Life
I'm jogging on the treadmill when I hear a loud bang behind me. Without turning around I have a pretty good sense that the sound is part of someone's workout. It's the sound of a large medicine ball being forcefully thrown down to the ground. But still, I can't resist turning my head for a moment to look.
Sure enough, as I turn to see a woman and her trainer throwing the medicine ball, I begin to lose by balance on the treadmill. Luckily, I caught myself fast enough and didn't fall.
I smile to myself as the lesson is confirmed;
We can not turn our attention to what someone else is doing without losing our own footing. When we turn our attention away from ourselves, there's always a trade taking place.
You and I are social creatures; we are hard-wired to connect with others. Noticing what's happening around you isn't such a big deal, but paying attention too much to social media, to your neighbors, to how others are living, is a recipe for losing sight of who you are and what you care about most.
And what you care about most has to be your North Star.
Otherwise the stress and challenges of living a human life will often feel overwhelming and unmanageable. This reminds me one of my clients who told me she often feels like a leaf blowing around in a storm. This is exactly how it feels when we're not sure about who we really are.
More than anything, I want you to be certain of who you are and what you value most because this sets the foundation for you to live your most powerful and purpose driven life.
Notice what you're paying attention to and then ask yourself whether or not it really matters. This method of checking in with yourself makes it much easier to manage your time and make good choices.
Every time you catch yourself looking around, use it as an opportunity to bring your focus back to yourself. Take a moment to remind yourself what you're longing to accomplish.
The missing piece that most other professionals don't talk much about is that allowing ourselves to focus on only those things that matter most to us requires a significant amount of self-love and self-worth.
When you feel worthy of feeling greatly fulfilled by your life, it becomes much easier to make your choices deliberately, because they hold great meaning to you.
You will stop caring about what everyone else is doing and you will stop shaming yourself for looking around because you will start to feel almost addicted to how good the practice feels of deeply honoring yourself.
If you have questions, please don't hesitate to reach out. This is why I'm here.
PS: I share my methods with you not because I want you to think it's easy. I know that it is not. I share my stories and strategies with you because this is what I know to really work.
The number one thing I want you to know is that you can't out-earn or out-perform your Story of Deserving.
If you're not getting what you want, whether it's in your love life or your bank account; if you find yourself stuck in fear or guilt, if your life doesn't look or feel the way you want, then there's a much deeper story playing out about what you think you deserve. Long-lasting, meaningful change, (in any area of our life) is only possible once we feel worthy of how incredible our life will feel as a result.