Last night when I went to bed I was very much looking forward to a sleeping in, something that's rare for me, with three young kids.
But sure enough, a little after 6 AM this morning I was awakened by my youngest daughter, complaining that she was hungry. My dream of a Sunday morning sleep in was not to be. I stumbled out of bed and into the kitchen and after giving her her favorite chocolate chip muffin and a drink, I was about to take my tired self right back to bed.
But then I paused for a moment in the kitchen and had an instinct to make coffee and wash a few leftover dishes in the sink. I brushed my teeth and grabbed the book beside my bed that I've been eager to read (see picture above).
I'm now sitting at the dining room table in the early morning on a quiet and misty Sunday morning, looking out at the pond in our backyard with a warm cup of coffee and the book I wanted to read. All three of my kids, now awake, are quietly watching a show in the living room next to me.
When my daughter first woke me I was annoyed and frustrated. I had a much different vision for how I wanted to enjoy the morning.
But by deciding to embrace the wonderful parts about being awake in the early morning, I was able to change the quality of my experience. This ability, to improve the quality of your moments (which translates into improving the quality of your life) is available to you too.
Being willing to see the gift of what's in front of you, without needing it to be different, is no small gesture. It's a simple concept that can feel challenging in its everyday application.
In fact, this is where most people are highly resistant and deeply uncomfortable trusting the practice; often weary of the benefit.
We mistakenly assume that if we allow ourselves to make peace with"'what is," then we'll lose the motivation, drive and determination necessary to get to some other (seemingly better) place.
We equate making the ‘best’ of our situation with giving up on wanting more. This mindset isn't just erroneous, it's a big reason why you're not having an easier time enjoying your life and reaching your goals.
I'm seriously obsessed with studying human behavior, especially the concepts of living deliberately, achieving meaningful success and how to feel deeply satisfied with our life. I know no other principle to have a more immediate and powerful effect across the spectrum of our lives than our Story of Deserving.
It's this story (that all of us have) that is the driving force behind every one of your choices, from how much you're willing to enjoy life right, to every choice you make in both your personal and professional life.
I know you're concerned that if you ease up on yourself, you might not get all the things you have your heart set on. I get scared like this too. But I hope you'll trust me enough to begin experimenting with this concept.
We want a life that feels richly fulfilling and easier. And the secret to that my friend has everything to do with your willingness to enjoy your life exactly how it is today. The irony here is that the more you're able to do so, the more likely you are to get where you want to go.
Whether you choose to go back to bed or stay awake, the choices you make matters far less than how you decide to feel about your choice.
If you have questions about anything I share, please don't hesitate to ask. This is why I'm here.