When we first started working together she was working three jobs. Two of them felt truly satisfying. They were the ones she knew she was meant to be doing.
The other one was the steady job she kept as a kind of security blanket. The steady job was her back up, the protection plan just in case the other two businesses (the ones she truly loved) didn't succeed.
Together we explored her longstanding story of "not good enough;" the one we all walk around with. For many of us, this story is a driving force in our decision making. Ergo, it's this story that determines how great we end up feeling about ourselves and our life.
She knew that holding onto this steady job, the one that was draining her, the one that wasn't even bringing in the big bucks, was a direct reflection of the habit she had of devaluing her worth. She knew she needed to walk away, it was only a matter of time. But she was also scared to death. She wished her other two businesses were a bit more financially solid before making a change. Money always seemed to be the measuring stick she used to base her decisions.
When we completed our first phase of working together, she had yet to leave.
It's been months since we last spoke, but recently we had the chance to re-connect. Here is what I missed.
She left that job that was sucking her soul, the one that was causing all kinds of resentment and stress, the one that was undeniably devaluing her worth.And wouldn't you know it, that by walking away from where she no longer wanted to be, her other two businesses blossomed as a result.
Her network marketing business has grown to a higher level of success and now she's driving around in her new Mercedes Benz. Her dance studio is now turning a profit and for the first time ever she's able to write herself a check. These things are a very big deal. They were what she was longing for when we started out together.
We do not stay in those things that we know are no longer fulfilling for the reasons we think. We don't stay because we're afraid the money will never come or that we'll fail royally.
We stay because we have yet to reconcile feeling worthy of the level of abundance and enjoyment we've always dreamed of.
It wasn't just in the area of money and career that her life has changed. She's enjoying a closer connection with her mother, and for the first time ever, her mom told her that she was proud of her. She's sleeping better, eating better, and enjoying better quality work outs. She feels more comfortable in her choices and is more confident in herself. She's more certain of her future and is much less anxious.
She also recently said yes to an invitation for an exciting vacation. As we spoke she was able to realize that she's actually living the life she's always wanted. Some tears were shed as she told me all the meaningful changes that are happening.
These victories didn't happen because she was lucky. They didn't happen because she has something you don't.They also didn't happen simply because she wanted them badly.
She raised her level of abundance and how much she enjoys life because she was able to see how the story she had been believing about herself was standing in her way.
You can have this too. It's not far fetched. You're not so far removed from having the life you really want.