There's two different routes I can take to drive my daughter to school.
Most days I choose the longer way. It's only a few minutes longer, but the ride is so much more enjoyable. It's a fairly straight path into town and it makes me feel so much more relaxed and calm.
The other way is hilly, with tight turns and the road is much more narrow. Unless my daughter specifically requests taking "roller coaster road," I usually opt to avoid it.
In our efforts to reach a goal, to achieve a certain level of success, to figure out how to feel more fulfilled by our lives, we tend to trap ourselves into thinking that there's a 'right' path.
And that the right path is the faster one or the one that everyone else is on or the one that brings the most amount of financial reward.
Here's the thing about goals and success and making more money. Those things rarely come as a result of rushing, or forcing or fighting against yourself.
Gratifying results never come by way of dismissing and devaluing what feels most enjoyable to you in the here and now.
If you tie your ability to enjoy your life on a level reached, a goal achieved or any kind of dollar amount you're going to end up unfulfilled and disappointed as a result.
Depriving yourself now in the hopes that someday in the future you'll feel better about yourself, never works.
The path to loving your life is much simpler than we think. But it does require a considerable shift. It requires a ready and willingness to let yourself enjoy your choices.
In my experience, the things that are easily measured never end up meaning that much. But I've never been the kind of girl to chart her happiness on an excel sheet. I'm guessing you're not either.
I've had a lot of conversations recently with a lot of women who've been telling me how much they want to just curl up and hibernate and settle into low gear so they can enjoy more of this hectic time of year with their families.
Here's the deal.
It doesn't matter if you take the road less traveled or the road everyone's traveling on; what matters is that you choose the road that you most want to be on, the road that feels most enjoyable to you.
All those things you want for yourself? They come much faster and easier when you're committed to the daily practice of self-love. I promise you this is true.
What is it you really want for yourself as this year comes to a close? What would feel most enjoyable to you? How willing are you to give it to yourself?
The quality of my entire life turned around once I started to understand the immeasurable value of allowing myself to love my moments now. The same will be true for you.
If you've got questions or would like some additional guidance, please don't hesitate to reach out. This is why I'm here.