Familiar, conventional, safe. These things my friend, rarely get you where you want to go.
In what area of your life are you longing for more?
I ask you this because in order to actually receive more, or reach a new goal or have your desires realized, I have found that we must be willing (to some degree) to change up our usual approach, to tolerate feeling somewhat uncomfortable or nervous or scared.
In the past 2 months I've pushed myself a bit outside my comfort zone by participating in more public speaking opportunities and allowing myself to have a little more help at home. Pulling the trigger on both of these things is still making me uncomfortable and I've been tempted, numerous times, to bail on both.
But I keep getting the feeling that if I can ride out the discomfort, if I can sit calmly and lovingly with myself inside the uncertainty, fear and doubt, that the experience will be well worth it.
Of course, there is no guarantee that the changes I'm experimenting with will pay off. I have no way of knowing for sure what will happen as a result.
But the result is never the win. The win is about who you're allowing yourself to become each time you step away from what feels safe and comfortable.
The win is about how proud and good you get to feel about taking your life and what you want for yourself seriously.
Familiar, conventional, safe. These ways of feeling are perfectly fine and maybe even helpful in some seasons of your life. They just don't hold much power to help you grow.
When I find myself questioning whether or not I should say yes to something that feels slightly scary and unsettling, one of the most helpful questions I ask myself is; how bad do I want to grow?
How bad do you want to grow? What would it mean to you?
Here's an incredibly important tip: Never challenge yourself to grow from a place of shame, blame or being tough on yourself. You have to challenge yourself from a place of self-love. This is not cheesy, whimsical theory. Loving yourself holds infinitely more power than being mean.
I have a feeling you already have some solid proof of what happens as a result of being hard on yourself. Nothing good or powerful or exciting or new. Right?
Nothing good ever comes from making yourself feel bad. This is the central theory that holds a massive amount of power to not only help you change, but also to allow you to enjoy the quality of your life.
Please don't take my word for it. I hope you'll give yourself a chance to discover this for yourself.
If you want a little help or have some questions, please don't hesitate to reach out. This is why I'm here.