Rafael Mantesso’s wife left him on his 30th birthday. She took everything with her: the cookware, the furniture and furnishings, all their photos — everything. The only thing she left Rafael was the dog, a bull terrier named Jimmy Choo.
’With only Jimmy for company, I found inspiration in my blank walls and my best friend and started snapping photos of Jimmy Choo as he trotted and cavorted around the house in glee. When Jimmy collapsed in happy exhaustion next to the white wall, I grabbed a marker and drew a new world around my ginger-eared pup. Suddenly, I felt this long-dormant inspiration for drawing — for art, for life — returning,’ recounts Rafael.
What if all the things that at first seem to be terribly painful or upsetting, were really happening to help you feel more alive and free?
The thing is, I really do believe that all the things that are unfolding in our life (the painful and the joy-filled) are here to help us learn what we need to learn so that we may grow into who it is we most long to be.
The secret then is this...
you're not able to reach great levels of achievement, of aliveness, of fulfillment or riches if you turn to any of the things that happen and think, "there must be something wrong with me."
If your default way of operating is to use what's unfolding before you as a reason to make yourself feel bad, your life will be so much harder and infinitely smaller than it could be.
If Rafael responded to his wife's leaving through the lens of insecurity, unworthiness and fear he would have closed the door on his ability to feel his creativity, his inspiration, his life returning.
We close the door to all that's possible by interpreting life through the lens of unworthy.
What's something that's stressing you out in your life today? Once you're clear on what it is, ask yourself how the quality of your thoughts, emotions and actions might be different if you adopted the belief that is was here to help you feel more alive and free.
Of course you already know (if you've been hanging with me long enough) that there's no way you're going to feel more alive and good and free unless first you give yourself permission to feel deserving of feeling that way.
Inspiration is always around you, but first you have to feel worthy of seeing.