Part Two - What To Do If You're Not Getting What You Want
This is part two of my two-part series about what to do if you're not getting what you want. If you missed part one yesterday, you can read it here.
Here's the quick recap of the most important points.
1. Sometimes your life wants more from you than a general ask. 2. Your life wants to see that you're absolutely serious about whatever it is you really want. The way you show how serious you are is by doing the following:
a. You get uber specific with your ask. You stop being general and vague. b. You treat your desires as absolute non-negotiables. c. You have to expect that it will work out.
And the most critical piece of all is you have to feel deserving of your ask.
You have to believe that you deserve to have all the great stuff that will happen on the other side of your desires being met. Which brings us to the heart of today's post; how to figure out where you fall on the scale of worthiness.
The way to begin figuring it out is to ask yourself the following questions,
Can I answer the question, "What do I really really want?"
Am I willing to take the time to get super clear and specific?
Am I willing to write it out and share it with someone else?
What thoughts come up when I think about my desires being met?
Does my ask make me feel guilty or bad or not deserving in some way?
Do I make excuses about why I shouldn't have it or why it isn't practical or realistic?
Am I acting as if I fully expect to get what it is I'm saying I really want?
Have I really put two feet in and left no room for retreat?
Am I still hanging on to Plan B or holding space for what I'll do if things don't work out?
Getting the life you really want and being able to reach your goals in a way that feels easier and so much more enjoyable requires a letting go of a whole bunch of things, mostly that longstanding story of believing you're not good enough.
We keep it vague and prevent ourselves from doing the real work not because we're afraid of failing but rather because we're afraid of what might happen if we get all those things we really want.
Please don't take my word on this. Nothing would make me happier than knowing you're going to embark on your powerful journey of re-writing the story of what you deserve.
As I said yesterday, your life really does want to give you what you want. But it's always waiting for you to make the first and most important move. Your life is waiting for you to feel deserving.
If you're ready to take your life to the next level, I'd encourage you to take some time to really think about and answers the questions above. I put them all on a worksheet for you to make it simple. You can grab it and print it out below.
love and light, xx Lori
As always, if you've got questions or want some additional support, please don't hesitate to ask. This is why I'm here.