"Many of us are jaded by the pressure keep up with the outward 'success' of those around us. We click on headlines that promise us Warren Buffet's secrets to success, without knowing deep down what it means to succeed on our own terms."
I stop reading. Her message strikes a deep chord with me.
I glance up again watching my kids play through the window. My son, Mason is building a super tall tower out of little blocks, when all of the sudden his little sister, Ashley decides to knock it down. To my surprise, rather than get upset, I see them both turn to each other and laugh hysterically. They are in a moment of true playfulness and joy. Without effort, I am smiling and can almost feel myself start to tear.
You see, there’s nothing wrong with striving for great success, with wanting more, with pushing ourselves towards a higher level of achievement. I’m a huge proponent of dreaming big.
But sometimes our quest for success can be responsible for our deepest suffering if we're not mindful of the metrics we’re using for measuring.
Much suffering comes as a result of ‘going along with’ someone else’s defining.
There's many more things I long for in this one life that I've been given but I know that success will never be found in some future time or place if our metric for success doesn't hold enough personal meaning.
It’s not about the yard looking perfect or the types of products I purchase. It’s not about whether I send the kids to camp or whether we end up taking that dream vacation.
If you measure only success by dollars earned or the size of your business or how you think your life appears to everyone else; you miss out on a much greater truth waiting to reveal itself; that success and riches are available to us at any moment inside our most meaningful moments.
Witnessing this moment of joy with my kids made me realize on a whole new level that success, for me is not found in things that are easily measured.
We ask for greatness, for success and abundance but then subscribe to a superficial way of defining success, by terms that were never ours to begin with.
It’s often when we stop seeking for ‘better’ somewhere else, that we harness the power we had inside us along to feel pretty damn good right now.