▪ it's dark out ▪ it's kind-of cold ▪ I have dinner to make, kids to feed, homework to help with, the evening routine to get through ▪ my husband is going out tonight ▪ there's a good chance I'll see a few rats out on the bike path (don't get me started on my rodent phobia), and ▪ i sort of don't feel like putting in the effort to get all bundled up
So you can see, there's lots of (what i consider to be good) reasons not to take my daughter out for a quick Rollerblade tonight along the bike path.
Our new thing together is that I jog along the Hudson River Bike Path and she roller-blades next to me. With my bad back and her just learning how to blade, we make for a pretty good match. Not to mention how nice it feels to share some mother-daughter time together, just the two of us, without the two younger kids.
So when she asked me last night at 6:30P to take her blading, as I'm in the middle of cooking dinner and thinking about all the other stuff that needs to get done, I said no. She asked and asked and I said no and no.
And as I saw her disappointment and thought a little more about the reasons for my saying 'no', I decided to let myself say yes.
Once my husband walked in the door I handed him the remainder of the dinner prep. I threw on my jogging clothes and my hat. She put on her blades and helmet, and we were off.
It was a beautiful night out on the bike path.
The water was quiet and dark and still along the river. We talked and talked and really enjoyed ourselves. I don't even remember what we talked about, but I remember very clearly how wonderful it felt. Neither one of us wanting to head back in. (And in case you were wondering, I didn't see any rats).
Sometimes the thing we think is the hardest, the thing that feels like too much work is actually our easiest way out.
Blading with my daughter was so much more fun than cooking dinner and sticking to my typical evening routine. We tell ourselves it's too hard to make the effort to change, but the truth is our life is infinitely harder when we keep ourselves stuck.
There's no reward to be found in depriving yourself of doing those things that make you feel good.
I'll never remember the dinner I cooked or the routine I kept on a Monday night in February, but the time I shared with my daughter as we held hands and laughed and talked together matters more to me than anything else.
The fulfillment you're longing for is here right now, it's just waiting for you to say yes.
Break the habit, bust out of your routine, do the work to shift the way you're used to thinking about and responding to things; because your richest, most rewarding life happens by way of all the richly rewarding little moments you decide to give yourself.
You're always the one who gets to call the shots.
What's one meaningful, richly fulfilling little thing you're going to do for yourself today? Don't just think about it. Declare it. Then do it.
One small move every single day holds more power than you think.