When we are single, we long for great love. We somehow feel incomplete and inadequate without it.
In our darkest moments we even allow ourselves to entertain the thought that, maybe there's something wrong with us.
We struggle to let ourselves really love where we are. We fear that if we do we may never get what it is we really want.
When we are married with kids, surrounded by load of love, we long for moments of solitude. Our love and energy and time is constantly needed by those around us that we often find ourselves depleted and overwhelmed. Our time is no longer our own.
We recognize that we are blessed with such an expansive and deep kind of love that we feel guilty and somehow selfish when we find ourselves longing for time away, for fulfillment outside our role of wife and mom.
In our darkest moments we even entertain the thought that, maybe there's something wrong with us, "How can I have all this love and still have moments where it feels so hard?" We struggle to let ourselves be okay with where we are.
It's the great irony and hardship of life. Loving exactly where you are while accepting that you are also allowed to long for more.
This Valentine's Day, my wish for you is to deepen your practice of loving yourself exactly where you are.
It's not always an easy practice, so I don't say this lightly, but this is the exact practice that allows peace, fulfillment and joy to find you. And more than anything else, isn't this what all of us are truly looking for?
You can long to be in a different place; you can long for great love to find you; you can long for more time alone, you can long for more and still give yourself permission to know great love (with yourself) right where you are.
Getting what you want always comes down to feeling worthy of giving yourself permission.
You are worthy of great big love, and the way to call it in; is to find it first within.