"Okay, put your hand like this and see how far back you can bend your elbow," my yoga instructor says to me.
[She's showing me some exercises to try to help heal my chronic mama's wrist.]
I attempt the move she's showing me.
"I can't. I can't bend my elbow at all." I say.
"No, it's not that you can't; it's that this is where you're at. This is your starting point."
"It's not that you can't." She says one more time for emphasis. "It's that this is where you're at.Got it?"
Holy smokes. Her statement makes a big impression on me.
Now I'm kind of feeling like an ass. Here I am telling her I can't do the exercise when in fact I'm showing her that I can. It's just that I can't do it (yet), to the degree in which I want to be able to.
This is how the story of 'selling ourselves short' gets believed. We say we can't do something, when in fact we can, we just aren't at the level we'd like to be at. Yet.
Getting back into a regular yoga practice this past week has been extremely eye-opening for me.
Due to some physical limitations, I can no longer perform at the level I able to in the past. But with a willingness to modify my approach, both physically and mentally, I have realized that I can still do every single thing.
It's not that you can't (do something). It's that this is the level you're currently at.
Try this new mindset on for size. See if that doesn't help change a few things. It had a pretty big impact on me.
PS. Your chances of getting stronger, of reaching a big goal, of accumulating more wealth, of being in great shape etc., are far greater if you practice loving where you're at, rather than dismissing what you think is possible.