But, I was actually wrong about something in my post. It's not just my clients who are benefiting financially from integrating my principles into their everyday life.
After reading my note, I received the following email from my brother.
"I decided to cancel my Equinox membership after reading your note today. I realized that this $190/mo is spent under the guise of making me feel like I’m investing in my health, but the fact of the matter is that it’s ego. I hardly ever use it, and it just kind of makes me feel cool that I go there.
There are 100’s of other ways for me to get in much better shape than I’m in right now, so I'm going to drop this expense and focus on actually getting in shape. I’m also going to look through my other expenses to see where I can cut in a similar fashion."
I was pretty blown away and happy to learn about my brother's response. The fact that reading my note and applying my strategies helped him 1. put more money back into his life and 2. understand himself and his real reasons for making decisions in a valuable way, is extremely meaningful to me.
I'm talking about money with you again today because I want the same for you. I want to help you experience first-hand that with a few small shifts (many of them mindset shifts) you can begin to alleviate some of your financial stress.
The easiest place to start is always with the lowest hanging fruit. What this means is, it's easier to start right where you are, by looking at where you're already spending money and asking if your current investments are truly serving your big vision.
I want you to do what my brother and many others who have written me, are now doing.
Over the next week I want you to take a look at where and how you're currently spending your money. I then want you to ask yourself to get honest about whether this is a meaningful, valuable exchange of your money at this time in your life.
I don't want you to get caught up in actual dollar amounts right now. It doesn't matter if you stand to save $20 a month or $2000; I want you to begin the worthiness habit of establishing a solid practice of taking back control of where your money (all your money) goes.
The hard part is always about being honest with ourselves. This is the part you have to do all by yourself. It's really easy to trick ourselves into believing that something we're doing holds value, when in truth it's an obstacle to helping us get what we want.
My clients save hundreds to thousands of dollars in our work together by being held accountable for the root cause of WHY they want to spend money on something they're saying they want.
Nine times out of ten it's never about wanting the actual thing we spend our money on; it's about a much deeper longing. It's about wanting how we think that thing is going to make us feel. This is a hugely important concept to understand.
The toughest pill to swallow is often the realization that we are making moves not because they are sacred to us, but rather so that we can keep up with appearances. There is no shame in wanting exactly what you want, but now, moving forward, I want you to want it for all the right reasons.
I want you to want it because it holds big meaning for you, not because it serves your ego, or wins you external praise or proves something to someone else.
As we begin a new month, a month that kicks us into high gear for Holiday Season and the high probability of over-spending and feeling mega-stressed, I want to help you adopt a more powerful money mindset and hopefully help you save a few bucks.
Before you spend a dime on anything for the entire month of November, I want you to stop for just a moment and first ask yourself the following,
Does this hold really value for me?
Is it really important that I invest in this right now? If yes, what's the meaning that this exchange holds for me? What's the WHY of why this trade is so important?
Just to be clear, this isn't about depriving yourself from the things you really want. This isn't about shaming yourself into being able to cope with less. This is about waking up to a place of real empowerment in terms of how you decide to spend your money.