"Just kick the ball. Kick it hard in the general direction of the goal. You never know what might happen."
My oldest daughter is six years old. She's playing in a competitive soccer league for the very first time this Fall. This type of competitive play is a first for most of the other kids on the team as well.
Much to the coach's dismay, it's taken half of the season just to get the team to understand that the point of the game is to score a goal.
Last week my daughter scored a goal. It was the only goal of the game. It was their first (and only) win. It's been the only goal of the entire season, so far. It was a really big deal for her. It was a really big deal for the team.
At the end of the game, I came to find out that my husband had been coaching our daughter minute by minute during the game, from the sidelines.
"Try to kick the ball towards the goal," he told her. "Just try to take the shot whenever you can."
As I thought about his coaching philosophy for a bit, I realized it made pretty good sense. (Yes, husband, you might be just as wise as me. I said 'might be'.)
How many times have we prevented ourselves from even trying to go for the goal because we're too afraid of falling short? More often than not, we don't even try to take the shot because we think we're not talented or smart or capable enough.
We're afraid of being judged, of looking like a fool, of appearing ridiculous in front of the people around us. Sadly, as a result, many of us never give ourselves a chance (at what we really want to do with our lives) because we're scared of giving it our all only to have it not work out.
I wonder if you've closed the door to the possibility of succeeding at something you really want without even giving yourself a fair shot?
I wonder if you're holding yourself back in your life right now because you're afraid you're not good enough?
If that's the case, I hope I canencourage you today to take the shot.
If you were six years old, playing soccer for the first time, what would you want your father to say to you from the sidelines? What do you wish your father had said to you all those years ago in order to help you really believe in yourself?
Maybe you didn't get the encouragement you needed back then, but you can absolutely give it to yourself right now. Reaching big goals requires a serious willingness to constantly cheerlead for yourself.
You don't need to be the most athletic, or put in the most amount of practice time, or be the bravest kid on the team. Certainly, all those qualities can help, but persistence and determination beats talent when talent doesn't take the shot.
You're guarenteed to miss 100% of the shots you don't take, but sometimes kicking hard in the general direction of the goal is enough to win the game.
You don't have to be more than you are right now. You just can't stop moving the ball down the field.
Want some help moving your ball down the field? If you have a goal that's really meaningful to you and would like some expert help getting unstuck, feel free to connect with me below. I'd love to try to help.