While I'm willing to admit that uncertainty is a very real (and powerful) place to be, more often than not I find that we're really good at tricking ourselves into believing we're uncertain a lot of the time about a lot of things, when the truth is we're really just afraid.
Being scared of owning your truth, of making changes, of operating in the world from a completely different place, warrants a bit (or more) of feeling afraid. Your fear is not the problem. And ps...it's not about money or time or any other knee-jerk rationalization.
The real issue is always about feeling worthy of giving yourself what you know you need.
Pretending you're uncertain about something you know you're not, is a terrible way to treat yourself. It leads to all kinds of suffering.
While the act of radical self-honoring takes time and patience and persistence to cultivate, it's a practice worthy of your fullest attention. It's a non-negotiable if you're striving for something really great.
Every time I've listened to what it is I really want, whether it's closing the laptop and taking the rest of the day off or deciding to indulge in something I'm longing to eat, whether it's saying 'no' to an invite or 'yes' to a business collaboration; no matter the size of the move I make, every time I give myself what I really want, without fail it delivers exactly what I need.
The same will be true for you.
It doesn't matter what you do specifically. It matters that you turn to yourself with deep respect and love and honoring and start giving yourself little moments of what it is you really need.
What's the worst that could happen? I'm thinking the worst-case scenario is that you start enjoying your life a whole lot more. That doesn't sound so bad to me.
Playing the 'uncertain card' when the truth is you're really not, is a sure-fire way to create a complicated mess. And time spent dealing with messiness means the road to getting what you really want will be much longer than it needs to be.
Changing the quality of your life can be surprisingly easy. But it takes a serious commitment to become mindful of every little move you make.
I encourage you today to adopt a new practice of no longer doubting what you know for sure because every time you deprive yourself of what you really want, you get further and further away from this thing called love. And it's only through love (deep self-love) that we hold the power to really change.
I have a feeling you're much clearer about the things you want and need in your everyday life than you might be allowing yourself to take ownership of.
Here's a little help.
Listen deeply to yourself this week. Ask yourself to be honest about what you really need. Try giving yourself something you really want or need. These don't have to be material things.
Sometimes what we need most is our own permission to stop feeling bad or guilty about something.
Make two small gestures of self-honor towards yourself this week. Notice how it makes you feel I'd love to hear how it goes. Feel free to share it with me below.
"God have mercy on the man who doubts what he's sure of." - Bruce Springsteen