No, there's no cooking in my house. I order food pretty much five times a week.
Do you have time to exercise?
Absolutely not. I run the company and spend time with Amelia (her daughter), and that's pretty much all I can muster right now.
The above exchange was part of an interview I read recently with Leah Busque, Founder and CEO of TaskRabbit.
I found this interview extremely refreshing and liberating. I'm sharing it with you in the off-chance that you might be holding yourself in a somewhat unreasonable place, a place where you think you have to do it all, where you have to operate a pretty specific way in order to feel productive or successful or good. The truth about that kind of thinking is that it will leave you depleted and stressed and angry.
You don't need to cook dinner every night, you don't need to send your kids to school with a homemade lunch each day. You don't have to host the bday party. You don't have to have all his friends over to watch the game. You don't have to workout 5 times a week. You don't have to feel pressured to expand your business or make more money. You don't have to always be the go-to support person for every one of your friends.
This way of operating not only harms the quality of your everyday life, it kills your big dreams.
The way you choose to use every ounce of your energy matters. It matters more than you think. And if you keep trying to do it all you'll never know what might have been.
I have moments all the time where I think I can do everything. It's a lesson I'm still very much in the middle of learning. Every time I over-extend myself, I crash and burn and get stressed and sick and want to crawl under the covers for about a week.
You don't need anyone else to approve of the way you decide to do things. And you don't need to apologize for your chosen way.
If you're on the journey to a powerful, purposeful life, then the best piece of advice I can share with you today is to try loving and honoring the season you're in.
Maybe you're in a season of take-out food. Maybe it's a season of slowing down and saying 'no' to a lot more things. Whatever your season may be, what if you treated it like a sacred gift? A gift that was here to help you get clear on your top priorities? What if you knew it was here to help you get closer to living your dream?
Choosing to no longer 'do it all' might be the most powerful move you ever make.
ps. In order to write this note to you I had to lock myself in my bedroom and ask my husband to take care of the kids. Tonight, I just can't get my work done and also do the bedtime routine. This is the season I'm in. It's going to have to be okay.
What season are you in in your life right now? What are your top two priorities?
What do you have to STOP doing in order to really make them a priority?
What's one move you can make this week to make things easier?
Feel free to share your responses below. I'd love to support you on your journey. xx Lori
Weekly notes to help you take back control of the quality of your life.