There was a man who wanted to transcend his suffering so he went to a Buddhist temple to find a Master to help him. He went to the Master and asked, “Master, if I meditate four hours a day, how long will it take me to transcend?”
The Master looked at him and said, “If you meditate four hours a day, perhaps you will transcend in ten years.”
Thinking he could do better, the man then said, “Oh Master, what if I meditated eight hours a day, how long will it take me to transcend?”
The Master looked at him and said, “If you meditate eight hours a day, perhaps you will transcend in twenty years.”
“But why will it take me longer if I meditate more?” the man asked.
The Master replied, “You are not here to sacrifice your joy or your life. You are here to live, to be happy and to love. If you can do your best in two hours of meditation, but you spend eight hours instead, you will only grow tired, miss the point, and you won’t enjoy your life."
Suffering doesn't happen to us; it's created by us; in the ways in which we choose to think about and do things. One of the most powerful ways I increased the quality of my own life drastically is by making an agreement to value enjoying my life, the life that's in front of me right now today, more than valuing any other thing.
You can't earn the right to your best life if you've trapped yourself in suffering.
You are not here to sacrifice your joy or your life. Contrary to what you might believe, you suffering doesn't serve your children or your parents or anybody.
You are here to live, to be happy and to love.
In fact, you will see (if you take this message seriously) that once you really give yourself permission to love yourself and your life, you serve those around you and the world at large in a much bigger and more powerful way.
If you want that great life you've always dreamed of; you've got to be willing to let go of the suffering.
Here's a little bonus assignment for the week. Grab a journal, find some quiet time and answer the following.
1. In what ways am I sacrificing my joy or my life? List out all the ways in which you're suffering.
2. What's the deeper story. Meaning, what am I saying to myself about why I'm holding onto this suffering? What's preventing me from letting it go?
3. What has to happen (think mindset shift) in order for me to release some of the suffering?
4. What thoughts come up when I think about giving myself permission to truly enjoy my life?
5. What do I have to 'stop doing' in order for that to happen? List out all the things that come to mind.
6. Do I feel worthy of releasing the suffering?
7. What scares me about letting myself love myself and my life more?
8. How bad do I want to feel good?
Got questions or comments? Want my feedback on something? I'd love to help. Feel free to comment below. xx Lori
Weekly notes to help you take back control of the quality of your life.