Lori Fields, LCSW
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I'm on a call with a client. She wants my advice on pulling the trigger on something she's not so sure about.
(She's contemplating renting a weekend house in a place she really loves.)
I take her down the path of giving voice to every question, concern and thought she has around saying yes to this.
She's worried about all the stuff that seemingly makes sense; spending the money and taking the time and what if she ends up not loving it there and will she end up putting her investment to good use?
I challenge her to look beyond the 'what if's' and the first layer of her concerns by repeatedly asking, "What's the real reason you want to say yes to this?"
After a few moments of pushing, the breakthrough is finally before us; she excitedly bursts out with what lies at the heart of why she wants to let herself say yes,
"Because I really want to," she says. "Because I really love it there."
I can actually feel her smiling. I can feel how much this means. It's funny how easy it can be to convince ourselves that we're unsure about something that we're actually quite certain of.
The truth is she was never uncertain about saying yes to this; her uncertainty was about feeling worthy of letting herself feel this good.
Because I want to.
Because I love it there.
Because this feels right for me right now.
These are all worthy reasons to let yourself say yes. You don't need to get tangled up in explaining anything else.
Bonus Tip: We get tangled in explaining, and justifying and feeling guilty when we don't feel deserving of having what we want or need.
Want a little more inspiration? Watch this awesome 4 min video by James Victore on this very subject.
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